Suicide and Men - What Causes Men to Commit Suicide

Hello Everyone,

Yesterday I was sitting at home working on my computer when a news notification appeared.  

"Linkin Park singer Chester Bennington dead".  

Chris Cornell, the Soundgarden frontman also committed suicide when he hung himself on May 18, 2017.

I admittedly am a fan of both rock groups.  They have created great, memorable music.  There were posts on Facebook mentioning how the music of Linkin Park helped them deal with bullying and other issues at school.

My first question is always, "Why didn't anyone see the signs or talk to the person if they did?"

It seems so simple, but it happens way too often with men, in this case Chester Bennington of Linkin Park who was about to begin a US Tour to entertain large crowds of people with music from their latest album.

I would like to share an article I found on CNN.com. 

What we need to learn from Linkin Park frontman's death

Updated 0143 GMT (0943 HKT) July 21, 2017

By Clay Cane

(CNN) It's a tragic day for the music industry. The lead singer of Linkin Park, Chester Bennington, was found dead in his Los Angeles home at 41. Sadly authorities were treating the case as a possible suicide. Eerily, Bennington died on what would've been his dear friend Chris Cornell's 53rd birthday -- the Soundgarden frontman hung himself on May 18, 2017. Both men are now part of a long, disturbing history of rock and roll and untimely death.

Linkin Park was a groundbreaking rock band that shattered the music industry with 2000's "Hybrid Theory." In an era of overly sweet pop music with boy bands and copycat starlets, the group was a refreshing mix of angst, grit and raw emotion.

Chester Bennington's melodic but rugged voice helped spawn rock classics like "In the End," "Numb" and "What I've Done." Arguably, one of Linkin Park's most brilliant (and unexpected) moments was pairing with Jay-Z for 2004's "Collision Course." The album was a mashup of Jay and Linkin Park, and launched the single "Numb/Encore." Not since Aerosmith and Run-DMC did "Walk this Way" had people heard this perfect fusion of rock and hip hop. The six-track album was critically acclaimed and a smash hit, going to number one on the Billboard album chart and selling over two million copies.

One thing no one can deny is the significant pain in Bennington's voice. He clearly purged his anguish through his music. Bennington was open with his history of abuse and struggles with drugs and alcohol, which he claimed helped him create some of the band's biggest songs. When describing the song "My Suffering," he told the music website Noisecreep.com in 2009 it's "literally about (how) being an alcoholic and a drug addict has paid off for me in many ways. I have been able to tap into all the negative things that can happen to me throughout my life by numbing myself to the pain, so to speak, and kind of being able to vent it through my music."

He said that another song, "Crawling," is "probably the most literal song lyrically I'd ever written for Linkin Park and that's about feeling like I had no control over myself in terms of drugs and alcohol. That feeling, being able to write about it, sing about it, that song, those words sold millions of records, I won a Grammy, I made a lot of money. I don't think I could've been inspired to create something like that by watching someone else go through that. So in a lot of ways that's been very constructive for me." This sentiment is sadly familiar for many artists who are obviously struggling with pain or addiction and see the battle as a space of creativity.

Tragically, when I think about artists like Kurt Cobain, Chris Cornell and so many more, I can't help but wonder what is the price for singing the lifelong blues? Do you have to suffer for your art to create? Even back to the days of Janis Joplin, Jim Morrison and Jimi Hendrix, all of whom died too young, these artists were living every note, lyric and chord of their music.

Sure, pain and angst create great music. But considering the phenomenal artists we have lost in the past few years to suicide and inner demons, it is long past time to prioritize real mental health over the sporadic catharsis of bars and chords. According to Health.com, musicians are fifth in the top ten professions with high rates of depressive illness.

If you make a choice to not suffer for your art, can you still be a great artist? The answer is, yes. When Adele released her "25" album, she admitted she would no longer thrive off of depression to create. When Mary J. Blige was criticized for "getting happy," she specifically told me in an interview for BET.com, "Some of them (fans) are mad at me for making the switch, but I would've died over there. Literally, I'd be six feet under." Thankfully, Mary and Adele made the switch.

I hope there is a lesson that can be learned in the deaths of Chris Cornell and Chester Bennington. We need to support our artists to be healthy and loved even when they evolve out of the sadness that inspired our favorite songs. Depending on pain to create is a dangerous road to travel. I can't help but wonder about the sonic and vocal brilliance we will, now, never get from Chester Bennington.

Long live a god of rock.

Please take the time to watch these next couple videos.  They paint a picture of the struggles of this man that no one was able to help in time to prevent his untimely death.

Chester Bennington’s Bandmate: Linkin Park Singer Was Hit Hard by Chris Cornell’s Suicide

Chester Bennington: Linkin Park star's heartfelt last interview 'We're all human beings'

It does not matter how much money a person has or fame if a person cannot find a way to escape. Depression and drug use are ways we attempt to escape from what troubles us, but many times we are just covering up what we do not want others to see.   Using suicide as an escape is a permanent means there is no coming back from.  

Stories such as that of Chester Bennington are the reasons I began to write this blog.  If by sharing a story of someone so many people enjoyed, watching him perform wit Linkin Park, can prevent someone else, whether or not they are well known, from deciding suicide is the only way to escape, then I have done what I have meant to do.

Hope everyone out there can find something positive today to keep them going.

As Always,

Ali